Real-ationships: Group post *Twilight inspired*

 Heyyyyyyyyyy so a week late but I have been crazy crazy busy! Sooooo last night me and my friend had a twilight night *Definition of a 'Twilight night'* -spending the whole night watching all the twilight movies and crying, laughing, being irritated, and having the girly *aawwwwwww* moments. Because we both have never watched it before lol 

So we had a lot of comments about the relationship between Edward and Bella. Personally, I think it was really sweet *dont judge me, twilight haters* but I also think in reality their total dependency on one another would be maybe kinda, umm, just a little bit, uhh what to say... unhealthy? :P

They literally had no reason for living besides each other. I mean in real life they would have to *with all courtesy* Get a life! But again that doesn't work in their world because they are technically dead hehe. Besides that I liked the whole idea of Edward not taking Bella's virtue untill they were married, in a world where guys are all about how much they can 'tap' a chick or what they can get from her physically or whatever I think that was really cool to portray. :) 

Anyway so right now I am with a group of my girlfriends and they are gonna help me write this post. We are gonna do a post about... actually I don't really know what this post is about because are going to write their own thoughts down, hehe but let us see where this goes... 

REAL-ATIONSHIPS

Tu- In relationships we always try to get a person that we have dreamed of. AKA our Edward Cullen but are we being their Bella Swan????  Because i have been waiting for my forever, but i dont know if i am his yet. Because Bella waited an entire movie for Edward (new moon) and i cant wait for more than five hours for a reply to a text. And the fact that i am comparing myself to a vampire love story....is sad. I want reality, but cant afford it! Because fantasy is so close to my heart.....I have loved before, I have been hurt before, and i have died before...so my aim is to become a newborn, an immortal to love! 

(She is referring to the twilight characters for those who don't get it and haven't watched it, do you live under a rock? *this coming from someone-me- who watched it for the first time yesterday lol*)

Da- I cant count the  number of times I've daydreamed about my prince charming and how I've talked about boys with my friends but one day on my way to school i just thought deep down I've kinda been lying to myself. Cause honestly if my prince charming came riding on a white horse and asked me to be his one and only i'd probably stand awestruck for like a whole 30 min and then RUN!!!!!

  cause honestly i'm terrified... the thought of trusting someone with my heart terrifies me... in the back of my mind I'm thinking " But what if he breaks my heart? what if all this love I'm giving is all for nothing..." Maybe its cause of my past? i mean I've been disappointed a lot by my dad and i try my best not to use that as a crutch cause a lot of kids have gone through that.. but its hard to patch a wound that the only male figure in your life caused... so after this realization i had to find a way of dealing with this feeling and I came to the conclusion that i cant erase the way I feel based on my abilities... so I have chosen to trust God... He designed my "prince charming" just for me.. and I'm sure He knew I'd feel this way even before I would.     

  

Ku- My take on relationships may differ from other people, for me as long as you both love each other and trust each other and God is the foundation of it all you are good to go. One thing that irritates me that many people need to understand, is that a relationship is between two people and not the whole world. If they are happy you should be happy for them. 

Ta- I've been in a couple relationships in the past and learnt a few things from them, for example it's not advisable to rush into a relationship until you've gotten to really know the person.Once you've acquired a friendship with the person, you can then think about being in a relationship with each other. A lot of people who date their best friends mostly tend to have a long healthy relationship because you generally know everything there is to know about each other.

  (tihi) I don't think i'd want to get into another relationship anytime soon until i'm completely sure this is the man God wants me to spend the rest of my life with. In the meantime I'd just want to be really good friends with guys and just get to know them.

Ki- Relationships, haha.. what??... that's the first thing that comes to my mind. Honestly, relationships are work. You have to commit, change your priorities, compromise, be considerate, trust, and well,  most of all love. What I don't like is when people rush into relationships knowing that it won't last. Personally, I'm " forever alone " until I can completely be myself with the person, and until I can love this person fully. Also, I'm not looking for my other "half".. After all, I was not born a half. LOL.. haha. 

To me, until I love myself completely, I can't love another person wholly. My advice to others, love yourself first, don't look for love in others.

I am so proud of these ladies for being honest :D Can ya'al relate?

So one more Real-ationships post coming up next week, then ideas for new topic? inbox, text, comment, follow, and like perrfect imperrfections on facebook... By lovelies, have an amzing -rest of weekend-...

I am in love with this song :P (my friend Natalie showed me, who btw is also a really cool blogger, here is the link to one of her blogs :) http://joywithsarcasm.blogspot.com/2014/03/i-dont-get-people.html

Real-ationships: Gurrl-friends

Happy Sunday ya'al! :)
So this won't be a very long post because again I have school work like crazy to do, also I have exciting news will share at the end of the post ;)
Okay, so I started this theme Real-ationships without really explaining what it's all about. So basically I was going to do the month of Feb as boy-girl issues/drama/blablabla then my friend sent me this inbox on FB

Shingaiii.... soo..im like in my room... no power but i was reading your blogs.. and ommg.. i raff them! Lol.. so..for your next blog.. or the few next to come..or whenever you can do it.. i really would like you to maybe talk about friends... I just want to know your opinion on them.. because lately I've been really struggling with friends. I feel like I cant trust anyone.. Lol And then I left my old school so like I miss my friends there soo much. And i literally fear losing touch with everyone Then there's also fights with friends.. for example me and one friend of mine are not on speaking terms.. and basically I think it all started with mis-communication.. and its shocking how that ruins a friendship... and even though he is just a friend.. anytime someone says something to disappoint you or is just plain right bitchy towards you -excuse my language..- honestly it hurts.. because friends also hurt you and leave scars.. and those scars sometimes lead up to insecurity. Somehow i think it kind of adds up to the insecurities thing.. because without people/friends.. would we really be insecure.. we wont have anyone to compare to.. we wont need to feel judge.. then again with friends.. there the good things.. of some of them being there for you and all.. people to make you laugh.. people to just complete your being.. (boyfriends and all) The world would be so weird if we had no friends/family/people in general
So I edited it for privacy purposes but basically what I want to do by showing you the inbox is make you realize that relationships isn't just about the opposite gender, sometimes we have issues with those closest to us in other areas. I will start -since I am a girl- :P by talking about girl drama, for the guys keep reading, these things could help you in future :P
Okay so sometime last week I was walking somewhere with my friend and on our way home we saw this gorgeous lady! ( as a girl am allowed to say that without having to say 'no homo' right? lol)  So as we see this lady, my friend and I have a really interesting conversation about how sometimes you see people and feel like " why the heck am I even alive?!" hehehe ironic after all my #fightinginsecurities right? Well at least am being honest, but -yes, there's a but- I've been reading this really interesting book and I got a few principles from it. 1. Stop Making Comparisons! When one guy was asked how he knows a girl is insecure, he said he noticed when girls do this this thing of sizing each other up. Why lie ladies, this sadly happens to be true a lot of the time. We have this mindset that we can't add value to another person without subtracting value from ourselves. When we work with that God-given dignity I keep talking about then we need to learn that, "We can totally think another person is beautiful without thinking we are ugly, we can acknowledge another lady as smart without feeling like an idiot, we can admire another's terrific shape without feeling like a slob, and we can say "wow, omg she is soo talented!" without feeling like we have no purpose on earth. So my advice, Let's stop! And I'm talking to myself too. The next line is very serious and read it slowly if you have to!
AIN'T NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT! lol
Girls how long will we post selfies with the cleav-age and yadayada to see how many likes we can get to prove to ourselves that we are prettier than 'she' is :) read this with love. To understand your self worth is to not link it to anyone else.
2. We need our Gurrl-friends! So there's been this whole thing about girls saying, "I prefer hanging out with guys because they have less drama." Okay hold up for a sec, I am not going to argue with you. Yes, guys appear to have less issues than we do but have you seen how different we are? Guys have the 'yo bro I hate you.' 'yo, bro I hate you too' moments and then be totally cool (again dudes tell me if I am misrepresenting you :P) but that isn't how, as ladies, we were designed to handle issues. Now look past the drama, think of the friends in your life. Think of the good things that you and your girlfriends have been through the things you have talked about that you can't really tell a guy. Like how you're confused about something in your life, planning for the future-  I bet we've all had those, me and my best friends are gonna live together when we grow up moments- and just stuff like that. Let me be 100% honest I love my guy friends but I need my Gurrl-friends!!! When I think about the future I can't picture them Not baby sitting my kids, and having phone calls about how irritated we are feeling at everything lol and stupid stuff like that. 
3. Know when to let go! Okay so this is hard especially for me, because I think I am kind of a people pleaser, but I am learning. Sometimes, sadly, there are people in our lives who are not beneficial in anyway. Examples of this are the insecure friends who degrade our self worth to feel better about themselves. Or the immature friend who, besides refusing to grow up wants you to stay as immature as them. Or the friend who always makes you do things you would never think of doing when your by yourself. #truthbetold the whole peer pressure lecture we have been given a countless times has some truth to it. Whether we like it or not, the type of friends we have influence who we are, so if who you are around a friend is a world apart from the person you want to become, then you know its time to let go :/ because again you are worth so much more than for you not to become who you want to become because of someone else.
Finally ya'al if we support one another, make this your own personal goal we could be the generation that actually loves each other instead of hating on each other. Idk maybe am being really feminist or whatever lol but that's just how I see it <3

So much for a short post :P If you have read until the end thank you so much and your the best! Comments? feedback, let me know what you think :) and you can follow the blog thanks! Now on to the exciting news, there may be a spoken word event thingy coming up soon under Perrfect Imperrfections... How cool is that?! Yea, so right now it's kinda sketchy but I will let you know the details soon. If you are a writer let me know :) Be blessed ya'al!      Oh P.s love this song...